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Sep 26
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163: ⁠The Psychology Behind Black-and-Wh...

The Sabrina Zohar Show
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Do you ever think, "If they don't text back, they're not interested"? Or assume one awkward moment means you have no chemistry? Your brain might be sabotaging your love life with faulty logic.

In Part 3 of our 5-part series, we're diving into the meat and potatoes of self-sabotage: the thinking errors that turn normal dating situations into full-blown crises. Today, we're breaking down the three main culprits—Black & White Thinking, Catastrophizing, and Mental Filtering—and why your brain uses these outdated shortcuts. I’ll even share a wild personal story (my "Prison Bae" saga) that perfectly illustrates how we create fantasies to escape our pain.

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