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Sep 2025
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333. Why do we love to hate?

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Hate is one of those emotions we don’t like to admit we feel – it’s messy, intense, and often laced with guilt. But it’s also deeply human. It can flare up in obvious moments of conflict, or linger quietly as resentment, judgment, or mistrust. But it’s how we engage with it that makes the big difference. In this episode, we explore the reasons we love to hate - where it comes from, why it’s so powerful, and the ways it can both protect and harm us. We’ll look at how it spreads in a hyperconnected world, and ways we can respond to it if we feel it in ourselves or from others.

We’ll explore:
•        The roots of hatred in group identity, safety and insecurity
•        Why hating can feel good 
•        Personality traits of trolls
•        Why our biggest critics can be those closest to us
•        How hate affects our mind and body
•        How to stop being a hater, and how to respond to hate from others

If you want to explore this difficult emotion without judgement, this episode is for you.

 

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