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Nov 13
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Ep 476: Why You’re Not Feeling Better Ye...

Matthew Codde LCSW
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Why You’re Not Feeling Better Yet | The Real Reason You Stay Stuck in Anxiety & Stress


Have you ever asked yourself, “Why am I not feeling better yet?”


You’ve read the books, listened to the podcasts, tried the coping tools — but somehow, the anxiety or heaviness still returns.


In this episode of The Restored Minds Show, licensed therapist Matt Codde, LCSW reveals why most of us stay stuck: we’re trying to avoid or fix our emotions instead of learning how to feel and release them.


Matt breaks down how resistance, distraction, and over-effort actually keep you trapped in the same emotional loop — and how true healing begins when you stop running from discomfort and start transforming your relationship with it.


If you’ve been working hard on yourself but still don’t feel peace, this conversation will help you see exactly what’s missing.


🧭 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

✅ Why you might not feel better — even after doing “all the right things”
✅ How resistance and distraction keep you stuck in suffering
✅ The role of lower emotions (fear, guilt, anger, shame) in anxiety and stress
✅ How to confront and release emotions without fighting them
✅ Why real healing comes from awareness, not more effort
✅ Practical insights to shift from avoidance → acceptance → peace


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⏱️ Timestamps

00:00 – Why You’re Not Feeling Better Yet
00:02:00 – The Real Reason You Avoid Emotions
00:04:50 – How Resistance Keeps You Stuck
00:06:45 – Learning to Feel Instead of Fix
00:08:50 – The Key to Real Emotional Healing


⚠️ Disclaimer

This content is for informational purposes only and should not be considered medical or psychological advice. For personalized help, consult a licensed professional.

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