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Aug 30
48m 42s

The Safety to Come Alive: IFS and the Ne...

Tammy Sollenberger
About this episode

In today's episode, I talk with Dr. Steve Chee, an integrative East-West physician and certified IFS therapist. Steve is offering an IFS continuity program through the IFS Institute this fall called "The Sacred Nervous System," which brings together neuroscience, mysticism, and relational medicine to help people who have been told they are "too much" or "too sensitive".

In our conversation Steve shares his personal story of being a sensitive child who felt he had to hide what he loved, and the journey of finding relational safety to heal this dynamic. We discuss the importance of love as the source of healing, and how therapeutic models and theories are simply tools to help us get there.

Key takeaways:

  • The connection between our nervous system and protective parts

  • How a relational safety is needed for healing and for parts to come forward

  • The difference between "co-regulation" and "co-revelation" and the role of love in healing

  • Why the therapeutic relationship, not the model, is what truly heals

  • The importance of explicitly naming love and reclaiming the sacredness of every individual

 

Episode Sponsor: IFS Institute

This fall, join IFS thought leader Dr. Steve Chee for a powerful journey into The Sacred Nervous System in the IFS Continuity program through the IFS Institute.  Designed for those who've completed the Online Circle or an IFS Level 1 Training, this program blends somatic awareness, spiritual insight, and IFS wisdom to help you stay grounded in Self energy—no matter what life brings.

With monthly teaching videos and live sessions September - December this is your space to deepen your healing and your capacity to support others.

Enrollment is open now at ifs-institute.com. Come as you are, stay as you grow with the IFS Continuity program. 

 

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