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347. When Your Partner Takes Other Peopl...

Dr. Abby Medcalf
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Learn why your partner defends others instead of validating you, why it hurts so much, how this breaks the goodwill pillar of trust, and exactly how to change this dynamic with actionable scripts and research-backed tools.

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