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Aug 14
18m 40s

Releasing resentment

Trista Guertin
About this episode

What happens when the people who promised to be there for you simply... aren't?

In this powerful episode, we dive deep into one of the most universal human experiences: dealing with disappointment when others don't follow through on their promises.

Through a real coaching conversation with a widow navigating life after loss, discover how to transform resentment into resilience and reclaim the energy you've been wasting on anger. Learn why the people who disappoint you aren't the real problem – and what actually is.

Listen now to discover the three options you have when people let you down and why only one of them will set you free.

What You'll Learn in This Episode

  • The hidden cost of resentment and how it's stealing energy from your goals
  • Why trying to control others' behavior always backfires (and what to do instead)
  • The difference between facts and thoughts – and why this distinction changes everything
  • How to redefine support in a way that actually serves you
  • A 30-day challenge to break free from toxic resentment patterns
  • The power of releasing your "manual" for how others should behave
  • Why your strength matters more than other people's weakness

Key Takeaways & Quotes

"You don't need other people's permission to be amazing. You don't need their validation to know your worth. You don't need their help to handle your life – although it's lovely when it comes."

The Three Options Framework

When people don't follow through on their promises, you have three choices:

  1. Stay angry and resentful (and swim in misery)
  2. Try to force them to help (spoiler: this doesn't work)
  3. Handle your business without the resentment (this is where freedom lives)

Ready to go deeper?

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