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Mar 2025
25m 36s

dating them won’t fix you

the zurkie show
About this episode

I used to run to relationships as a way to distract myself from my own fear of being alone.I was convinced I was never going to be worthy enough to be loved by someone else.

it was after I accepted my irrational fear as a possibility that I finally started to live life on my terms.

ask yourself if you're dating someone because you like them and who they are, or are you just entertaining a person to help you forget about the work you still need to do?

sending you lots of love and peaaaaaaace!⁠https://stan.store/thezurkieshow⁠

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