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Apr 2025
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Stop Auditioning for Relationships — Sta...

Pearlieee
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You’ve been showing up in your relationships like you’re auditioning—afraid to take up space, afraid to be too much, and desperate to be chosen. But real love doesn’t ask you to perform—it asks you to be real. In this video, we’ll unpack the roots of performance-based connection, how to stop auditioning for love, and what it takes to build mutual, nourishing relationships without losing yourself in the process.

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