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Apr 2025
8m 27s

You Don’t Want Love—You Want to Be Picke...

Pearlieee
About this episode

You don’t want love—you want to be picked. You want to be validated. You want to be enough. But true love isn’t something you earn—it’s something you receive without performance. This video is for every person who has chased the emotionally unavailable, confused anxiety for love, and turned connection into a competition. It’s time to stop auditioning and start choosing yourself.

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