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Jul 2025
19m 19s

Say Less, Mean More: How to Stop Filling...

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Why do we rush to fill silence even when there's nothing more to say?
Are you using filler words to hide your nerves or to prove you're still interesting?
What are you trying to cover up with “like,” “um,” or oversharing?
When was the last time you sat in silence with someone you love, or with yourself?

In this solo episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi takes you deep into an unexpected topic: silence. What starts as a reflection on eliminating filler words like “um” and “like” quickly becomes an introspective and revealing look at the discomfort we feel when we’re quiet—and what we’re really trying to hide.

She shares how learning to pause and breathe while speaking transformed her confidence, and how too often, we speak just to prove we belong. But what if true connection doesn't come from filling every gap—but from being fully present, even in stillness?

Radhi also opens up about self-monitoring, the pressure to perform in conversations, and how she's learning to feel safe even when she has nothing to say. Plus: a sweet life update on her grandma’s health, nostalgia in London, and a birthday plan that’s pure joy.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Why filler words can be subtle signs of insecurity and anxiety.
  • How silence can feel threatening—but also freeing.
  • Tools to eliminate filler words without losing your flow.
  • Why slowing down your speech makes people actually listen.
  • How to feel more seen and less performative in conversations.
  • The emotional impact of always adjusting to fit in.
  • What it means to be present with yourself—and others.

This episode is a gentle invitation to stop performing and start feeling. Whether you’re a fast talker, a chronic over-sharer, or someone afraid of awkward silences—this one will meet you where you are.


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