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May 2025
15m 30s

Why It’s So Hard to Communicate When You...

Lizandra Leigertwood
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Ever found yourself freezing mid-conversation, overreacting to a small comment, or walking away from a talk thinking, “That didn’t come out how I meant it to”?

You’re not alone. In this episode, we explore why communication feels impossible when you’re triggered—and how your attachment style, nervous system, and past experiences all play a role.

If you’re tired of miscommunication, emotional spirals, or feeling misunderstood, this episode will help you connect the dots—and start healing your communication patterns from the inside out.


What We Cover:

  • Why “just use your words” doesn’t work when you’re dysregulated


  • How anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment styles show up in communication


  • The nervous system’s role in fight/flight/freeze responses mid-conversation


  • Why small things feel huge when you’re triggered


  • The real reason you shut down, fawn, or over-explain


  • How to expand your window of tolerance so you can stay present


  • Why learning to communicate is a healing process—not just a skill

Ready to go deeper?

Join my Communication Workshop—a live, practical space to help you:

  • Say what you mean (without spiraling after)


  • Stay grounded when conversations get tense


  • Understand and shift your attachment-driven patterns


  • Build secure communication, even when it feels vulnerable


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