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Oct 1
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Emotional Avoidance Isn’t Helping You Co...

Lizandra Leigertwood
About this episode

 In this episode, I explore emotional avoidance — what it looks like, why it shows up in women with high-functioning anxiety, and how it often ties back to childhood trauma.

We also dive into how disconnection from your body keeps emotions stuck, and practical ways to notice and gently process your feelings without overwhelm. 

You’ll learn how to:

  • Recognise the subtle signs of emotional avoidance in your life
  • Understand why avoidance feels safe and why it’s costing you more than you think
  • Reconnect with your body to tune into your emotions
  • Take small, manageable steps toward emotional awareness

If you’ve ever felt disconnected from your feelings, numb, or like your mind is always busy, this episode offers validation and practical tools to start gently reconnecting.

Lizandra is a registered MBACP psychotherapist located in the UK and online. 

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