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Jun 30
48m 56s

What One Year of No Contact w/ My Mother...

Brown Girl Self-Care
About this episode

**** This episode has cussing and also goes into detail about childhood trauma/abuse****

It’s been one full year since I went no contact with my mother. In this episode, I’m reflecting on how I spent the day, the grief and grounding I’ve moved through, and three lessons I’ve learned since choosing distance over dysfunction. This isn’t about being strong or unbothered—it’s about what happens when you choose peace and refuse to shrink, even when people expect you to go back.

I’m sharing this episode for anyone who's navigating estrangement, emotional distance, or rebuilding themselves after breaking ties. You’re not alone. And no, you’re not wrong for choosing yourself.

In this episode, I share:

  • How I spent the one-year anniversary
  • 3 real lessons from going no contact
  • The ways I’ve learned to honor myself
  • How people will try to guilt you


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