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May 16
42m 33s

7 Harsh Truths I Wish I Knew in My 20’s ...

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When was the last time you looked back and thought, “If only I knew this earlier”?

In this episode, Jay shares the seven life-changing lessons he wishes he’d learned in his teens and twenties—insights that could have reshaped his relationships, career, peace of mind, and sense of purpose. These aren’t just reflections; they’re powerful revelations most of us only discover through struggle, heartbreak, or burnout.

Jay dives into what it truly means to speak with intention, to know when it’s time to let go, and to stop outsourcing your self-worth. From learning to stay quiet in a world that rewards noise to realizing that boundaries are an act of self-love—each lesson is a powerful reminder that growth isn’t always about adding more, but about releasing what no longer serves you.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why Saying Less Makes Your Words Matter More.

Knowing When It’s Time to Walk Away

Why You Should Talk To People, Not About Them.

What Stress Reveals About a Person’s True Nature.

How to Raise Your Standards Without Guilt.

Why Some People Miss the Old You (for the Wrong Reasons).

How to Stop Absorbing Others' Emotions and Expectations.

This episode is for anyone feeling stuck, overlooked, or overwhelmed. Jay reminds you that you don’t get what you deserve — you get what you accept. And that sometimes the most powerful transformation happens when you choose peace over performance, presence over perfection, and truth over approval.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discussed:

00:00 Intro

01:37 Things I Wish I Knew

03:27 Lesson #1: Speak Less, Say More

11:57 Lesson #2: Let Go Before It Drags You Down

17:34 Lesson #3: Talk to Your Partner, Not About Them

21:43 Lesson #4: Understand the Whole Person, Not Just the Parts You Like

28:05 Lesson #5: You Get What You Tolerate, Not What You Deserve

32:52 Lesson #6: People Cling to the Old You Because It Was Easier to Control

36:22 Lesson #7: “Bad at Texting” Often Means You're Not a Priority

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