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5 for 50: The Truths I’m Carrying Into T...

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This week I turn 50. Instead of balloons or cake, I’m marking this milestone by sharing five truths that feel carved into me now. Call it my 5 for 50. These are the lessons I’m carrying into this next decade—about boundaries, embodiment, reciprocity, friendship, and trusting the timing of my life.

If you’re in your 40s, 50s, 60s, I hope you hear yourself in these truths. And if you’re younger, I hope you take them as reminders to claim your life sooner rather than later.

In this episode I share:

  • Why I will no longer overexplain myself
  • How my body, not the clock, sets the pace for my life
  • The line I’ve drawn around reciprocity in relationships and work
  • The honest truth about not knowing how to be a good friend until later in life
  • Why I am no longer comparing my timeline to anyone else’s

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