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May 15
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261. Saying No Without Guilt: Unlearning...

Amanda Hess: Certified Life Coach For Neurodivergent Women
About this episode

Are you constantly smiling and nodding when you really want to scream "No!"? I've been there, too. That feeling of saying yes when your body and mind are begging you to decline is a symptom of something deeper – the good girl narrative that's been ingrained in us since childhood.

 

The cost of living as a good girl is enormous. We chase external validation, overfunction in every area of life, and end up burnt out, resentful, and disconnected from our authentic selves. But there is a way out, and in this week's episode, I share it with you. Tune in to learn how you can break free from this exhausting pattern and reclaim your joy, peace, and fulfillment.

 

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