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Jun 21
8m 56s

Breakups Hurt — But OCD Makes It Worse

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Welcome to another insightful episode of the OCD and Anxiety Podcast with Robert James. In this episode, Robert explores the painful intersection of breakups and OCD. He delves deep into how OCD latches onto the heartache of a breakup, turning genuine emotional pain into a relentless mental loop, filled with doubt and guilt. Robert discusses his personal struggles with relationship OCD and provides practical strategies to break free from these compulsions.

Discover Robert's three-step method to deal with intrusive thoughts: Acknowledge, Tolerate, and Refocus. Learn how to interrupt the ruminative cycle, tolerate discomfort without diving into it, and refocus your attention on the present moment and your values. Tune in to find your path to healing and embrace the freedom that comes with letting go of uncertainty

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Robert James Pizey (of Robert James Coaching) is not a medical professional and is also not providing therapy or medical treatment. Robert James Pizey recommends that anyone experiencing anxiety or OCD to seek professional medical help straight away to get a medical opinion and rule out other conditions or illnesses. The comments and opinions as written on this site are simply that and are not to be taken as professional medical opinions. Robert James Pizey provides coaching, education, accountability and peer support around Anxiety through his own personal experiences.

 

 

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