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May 2025
45m 9s

#453 Why Do I Keep Thinking About My Ex?

DR. LISA MARIE BOBBY
About this episode

Ever feel like your ex is living rent-free in your head, even though the relationship is so over? Whether it’s been weeks, months, or (gulp) years since your breakup, if you’re wondering “Why do I keep thinking about my ex?” and you’re still caught in a loop of thoughts, memories, or even fantasies about them, I made this episode just for you.

I know firsthand — both as a therapist and from my own experience — that getting stuck on an ex is exhausting. But there is a path forward. In this episode of Love, Happiness and Success, I’m walking you through exactly why this happens (spoiler alert: it’s not your fault — it’s biology), and more importantly, how to finally break free so you can move forward into peace, clarity, and emotional freedom.

Timestamps:
00:00 – Why Do I Keep Thinking About My Ex?
06:30 – Love and Addiction: Your Brain on Heartbreak
14:58 – The Truth About Breakup Recovery
28:17 – Emotional Loose Ends: The Silent Saboteur
38:05 – Rebuilding Your Self & Reclaiming Your Future
48:14 – You’re Not Doomed to Keep Thinking About Your Ex

If your ex is still living rent-free in your mind, please know you don’t have to stay stuck here.

The first step to getting your power back is understanding exactly where you are in your healing process. That’s why I created a free tool just for you.

👉 Take the Breakup Quiz: How Over Your Ex Are You? In just a few minutes, this quiz will show you which stage of healing you’re in — and what specific steps will help you move forward. Whether you're still in emotional withdrawal or starting to let go, you'll get personalized insight and a roadmap for what to do next.

And, if you're tired of spinning in circles, overthinking every memory, every mistake, every what-if — you don’t have to navigate this alone. Sometimes, the fastest way to start feeling better is simply talking to someone who truly gets it. Our team at Growing Self includes licensed therapists and breakup recovery coaches who specialize in this kind of healing work.

👉 Schedule a Free Consultation — to talk to one of the experts on our team and take the next brave step toward peace, healing, and freedom.

You deserve to feel like yourself again. And yes, it’s absolutely possible to stop thinking about your ex — not because you forced yourself to forget, but because you’ve grown into someone who no longer needs to hold on.

And you can start your healing today.

Xoxo
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
www.growingself.com

P.S. If you know someone who keeps spiraling over their ex, share this with them. Forward the link, post it on your story, or send them a little nudge. Be the friend who helps them start healing.

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