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Jun 19
12m 22s

Why Demanding Respect From Your Kids Isn...

MICHELLE KENNEY, M. ED
About this episode

What does real respect between parents and children truly look like? Have you ever wondered why your kids sometimes seem “disrespectful,” or whether expecting automatic respect is helping or hurting your relationship? Let’s dive into what it means to nurture mutual respect without demanding compliance.


Today, we revisit one of our most popular topics: the true nature of respect in parenting and how embracing connection over control transforms our family relationships. There is a commonly held narrative that tells us kids “should” respect adults. I used to crave compliance from my daughters, thinking that made me a good parent, only to learn firsthand that genuine respect can’t be forced. It’s cultivated.


In This Episode, We Cover:

👉 The difference between respect and compliance

👉 How parent/child relationships mirror other relationships

👉 Why respect must be given to be received

👉 The impact of punishments and rewards on respect

👉 Setting limits with connection, not control

👉 Ways to nurture reciprocal, lasting respect at home


As I mentioned, my sweet dad has recently passed away. Your continued listening and understanding mean the world to me. In his memory, and as promised, I wanted to share this episode from when he came on the show to discuss Connected Grandparenting with me. Thank you for your support during this time.

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