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Jun 2025
1h 13m

Self-Sabotage: Why You Do What You Shoul...

RICK HANSON, PH.D., FORREST HANSON
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We’ve all had moments where we watch ourselves make the exact wrong choice: procrastinating on an important task, picking a fight in a good relationship, or pulling back just when things are starting to go well. This is self-sabotage, and in this episode Dr. Rick and Forrest explore why we do it and how to stop. They talk about how self-sabotage often serv ... Show More
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