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Dec 2024
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#169: Self-Sabotage: Why We Do It & How ...

Stephanie Rigg
About this episode

In today's episode, we’re diving deep into self-sabotage—those frustrating patterns where we seem to work against our own best interests. Whether it’s procrastination, pushing people away, or avoiding opportunities, self-sabotage can feel like an endless cycle. 

We cover:

  • What self-sabotage really is: Understanding how it’s often a misguided attempt to keep us safe.
  • Why we get stuck: Exploring the fears, limiting beliefs, and unmet needs that fuel sabotaging behaviour.
  • How to shift these patterns: Where to focus your attention to break the cycle and create new, supportive habits.

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