Today, John and Vanessa unpack the lesser-known 'fawn' trauma response and how it often shapes adult relationships through people-pleasing and self-abandonment. They emphasizes the transformative power of setting boundaries, reclaiming one’s voice, and embodiment (the practice of reconnecting with the body to better understand our needs, emotions, and desire ... Show More
Aug 18
From Nauseous Nights to Perfect Mornings | Life in Costa Rica
In this episode, licensed therapist John Kim takes you inside his personal journey of building a new life in Costa Rica - the highs, the lows, and the unexpected lessons about presence, clarity, and decision-making. From nausea-inducing dirt roads to perfect mornings surfing in C ... Show More
15m 12s
Aug 14
Sh*t You Wouldn’t Ask Your Therapist | The Truth About Breakups
In today’s episode, John Kim answers raw, unfiltered listener questions on the theme of breakups and divorce — the things you’d never dare ask your therapist. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app HERE ... Show More
18m 18s
Aug 13
Loving Without Losing Me: Healing the Mother Wound
In this episode, licensed therapist John Kim gets personal about the mother wound - how it quietly shapes our self-worth, love life, and sense of safety. From a surprising MDMA journey insight to stories about his Korean-American upbringing, John unpacks what it’s like to grow up ... Show More
23m 6s
Dec 2024
How Childhood Conditioning Shapes Your Love Life
Today, Jillian opens up and dives deep into the roots of our fears in relationships, uncovering how childhood conditioning and self-esteem impact our romantic lives. She shares personal stories, profound insights, and actionable advice to help you break toxic cycles, understand y ... Show More
55m 42s
Jan 2025
Shared Phone Plans, Sober Dating, and Talking About Men
Today, Shaun and John talk about motorcycles, things they need to work on with their parents, feedback from their first live show, and shared phone plans. They also answer and give advice on a listener’s question: do mixed sobriety relationships work?
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1h 8m
Jul 2024
Abby Wambach On: Grief, Addiction, And Moving From External To Internal Validation
New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- Plus her definition of the oft-dismissed yet game-changing notion of self-love. We caught up with Abby Wambach at a really interesting time. She’s experienci ... Show More
51m 48s
Nov 2024
Sex Work, Life Purpose, and Lack of Sleep
Today, Shaun and John talk about riding motorcycles, happy endings, al-anon meetings, and supporting sex workers. They also share positive feedback from their listeners, and answer a listener’s question: how do I begin self-reflecting on my tendencies to cheat?
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59m 49s
Aug 2024
The Orgasm Gap, Anger Management, and Should We Break Up?
Today, John and Shaun talk about their recent retreat experiences, celebrity man crushes, and their first blowjobs. They also answer and give advice on two listeners' questions: Is it a woman's responsibility to ask the man she's dating to go down on her, and how do I ... Show More
1h 13m
Sep 2021
Learning To Love Yourself
Valuing and caring for our own needs, wants, and desires is critical to our mental health and happiness. If we struggle to love ourselves and take care of ourselves, how do we deliver value to the rest of the world? In this episode, I discuss four actionable ways to love yourself ... Show More
18m 43s