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May 2025
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E 107 Mel Robbins' Let Them Theory: The ...

Katie Farinas
About this episode

Katie welcomes her friend and returning guest, Stacey Uhrig, for another deeply insightful conversation—this time diving into Mel Robbins’ viral new book, The Let Them Theory. Together, they unpack the powerful message behind the movement: letting go of control, learning to regulate our nervous systems, and choosing peace over people-pleasing.

In this episode, Katie and Stacey explore:

  • Why “letting them” is so hard for so many of us—especially women
  • The nervous system’s role in our need for control, belonging, and safety
  • How trauma, early conditioning, and survival patterns keep us stuck
  • The "if, then spiral" and how it pulls us away from our truth
  • How to prioritize your own needs without shame or guilt
  • Why boundaries aren’t selfish—they’re essential for nervous system health
  • The power of owning your individuality in relationships
  • The physical symptoms of anxiety and how the vagus nerve plays a key role
  • The difference between the sympathetic (fight/flight) and parasympathetic (peace) states—and how to shift into calm
  • Why traditional talk therapy may not be enough for trauma healing
  • A sneak peek into “parts work” and its connection to nervous system regulation

Whether you’ve read The Let Them Theory or are just curious about the buzz, this conversation will leave you feeling seen, validated, and inspired to start releasing what’s not yours to carry.

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