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Jan 2025
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Mel Robbins: How to Use the ‘Let Them Th...

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Have you ever let someone just be themselves?

How do you remind yourself what’s in your control?

Today, Jay  sits down with best-selling author and motivational speaker Mel Robbins to discuss her revolutionary “Let Them Theory.” Mel introduces a powerful mindset tool designed to help listeners take control of their thoughts, actions, and emotions while letting go of what they cannot control. This conversation dives into the heart of personal growth, resilience, and building a life centered on peace and purpose.

Mel begins by explaining the core of the “Let Them Theory,” which is about recognizing the limits of control. She emphasizes the importance of letting others be who they are, accepting situations as they unfold, and redirecting focus to what’s within your power. Through vivid examples, Mel demonstrates how this approach can reduce stress, strengthen relationships, and reclaim wasted energy.

Jay and Mel also explore the emotional weight of unmet expectations and the difference between “Let It Go” and “Let Them.” Mel shares how this subtle shift in mindset fosters empowerment rather than passivity. They also discuss the complexities of adult friendships and how they evolve over time. Mel introduces the three pillars of adult friendship—proximity, timing, and energy—and explains how these factors influence the ebb and flow of connections.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to Identify What You Can Control

How to Handle Stressful Situations at Work

How to Set Boundaries with Difficult People

How to Let Go of Unmet Expectations

How to Manage Toxic Relationships Effectively

How to Build Meaningful Adult Friendships

How to Reclaim Energy Wasted on Others

Remember, you don’t need to have it all figured out. Start small. Say "let them" to release what’s draining you and "let me" to reclaim your energy and choices.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

Visit https://jayshettyshop.com - 100% of Proceeds are donated to National Alliance on Mental Illness. NAMI is the nation’s largest grassroots mental health organization dedicated to building better lives for the millions of Americans affected by mental illness.

What We Discuss:

  • 01:47 What is the “Let Them” Theory

  • 04:40 The Significant Difference Between “Let Them” and “Let Me”

  • 06:49 Stop Obsessing Over Things You Can’t Control

  • 14:03 People Only Change if They Want to

  • 21:59 How Do You Let Difficult People Be

  • 26:31 Learn to Value Your Time and Energy

  • 35:10 Two Things that Truly Define Love

  • 42:12 Let People Gossip About It

  • 46:34 Don’t Expect Too Much From Others

  • 58:22 You Aren’t Unlovable, Let Them

  • 01:01:12 Let Them Lie to You, It’s Their Truth

  • 01:04:17 Why is Adult Friendship Difficult?

  • 01:12:35 The Hardest Way to Practice the “Let Them” Theory

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