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May 13
16m 17s

Validation Is a Trap — Here’s How to Esc...

Cristina Cataman
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In this solo episode, I dive deep into a question I get asked all the time: “How do I stop seeking validation from others?” If you're stuck in a loop of people-pleasing, indecision, or fear of judgment — this one’s for you. I expose the real reasons we crave approval, how it kills our confidence, delays success, and attracts toxic relationships. Plus, I share the hard truth about being misunderstood and why letting go of that fear will change your life. Watch until the end for the two mindset shifts that finally set me free.SHOP NEW CATAMANIA MERCH:https://mbhtv.com/collections/catamaniaSubscribe here: https://youtube.com/@catamaniashow?feature=sharedCATAMANIA SocialsInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/catamania/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@catamaniashow?utm_source=hoobe&utm_medium=socialCRISTINA SocialsInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/cristinacataman/Follow MBHTV:https://www.instagram.com/mbhtv/AUDIO VersionsApple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/catamania/id1609694116?utm_source=hoobe&utm_medium=socialSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/47s5K3sixX7PzqQUlk8SbZ?si=53017589d00f40a5&utm_source=hoobe&utm_medium=social&nd=1&dlsi=ac5ab91cd41a416a

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