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Aug 2024
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Toxic Shame: The Hidden Force Draining Y...

Clark Kegley - Refusing to Settle
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In this video, we dive deep into the often-overlooked concept of toxic shame. Toxic Shame is a silent force that may be ruining your life. This video will explain WHAT toxic shame is, the 3 signs that toxic shame is affecting you, and quick steps to overcome it. This video is a must-watch for anyone struggling with self-doubt, low confidence, imposter syndrome, feeling fake, finding it hard to be yourself, and lots of self-judgements. Prepare to change your perspective on shame forever!

00:00 Intro: Why You Need to Watch

 00:19 Toxic Shame: Explained

01:42 SIGN I: Why My GF Almost Dumped Me

03:02 Toxic Shame & Modern Masculinity

03:47 Story: Faking Energy

05:10 The Root: Why We Do This

05:44 SIGN II: Walter Mitty and Escapism

07:09 Addiction: The Deceptive Escape

08:06 The Illusion of Positive Escapism

08:48 SIGN III: Childhood and Self-Isolation

10:17 Community: The Power of Mirrors

11:10 My Sobriety Journey: A Fight Against Shame

13:06 The Path Forward

14:03 Practical Steps

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Hey there, I'm Clark Kegley, a former pro drummer turned self-improvement advocate. Here on YouTube, I provide guidance to help you transform into your 2.0 version.

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