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Jul 2025
19m 35s

it’s time YOU became the center of your ...

Tam Kaur
About this episode

tired of people-pleasing, overthinking, and chasing validation? it’s time to detach, reclaim your confidence, and become the center of your own universe. ✨ we’re talking detachment, self-trust, and the quiet kind of confidence that comes from within. i’ll take you through the exact mindset shifts and weekly habits that help you stop people-pleasing, reconnect with your body, and protect your energy. this isn’t about becoming someone new — it’s about coming home to yourself. If you’re in your self-love era and ready to let go of external validation, this one’s for you 💌


♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO:
00:00 Introduction: The Importance of Decentering
01:58 Chapter 1: Decentering Everyone and Taking Control of Your Life
09:59 Chapter 2: Centering Yourself and Becoming Self-Obsessed
16:45 Chapter 3: Homework: Practical Steps to Self-Centering
19:04 Conclusion and Final Thoughts


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*My intro and outro music was made by the incredible @raaginder!

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