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May 17
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Why You Don't Want To Win The Argument |...

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What if you could learn a few simple, powerful tricks to handle arguments and conflict more effectively without losing your cool? In today’s Part 2 episode, communication expert Jefferson Fisher shares his practical approaches to communication that will help you stay calm, clear, and in control even in the heat of tough conversations.

Jefferson and Ryan talk about the urge to have the last word, the discipline it takes to remain composed in conflict, and the Stoic lessons on emotional control and restraint.


Jefferson Fisher is one of the most respected voices on communication and arguments in the world. He is a Texas board certified personal injury attorney and law firm owner of Fisher Firm. Millions of people and some of the world's leading brands come to Jefferson for advice and practical strategies to communicate more effectively. 


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