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Feb 2025
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & H...

Lewis Howes
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In a world where heated arguments and misunderstandings ruin our relationships, trial lawyer and communication expert Jefferson Fisher returns to the School of Greatness to reveal the art of meaningful conversation. Sharing insights from his new book "The Next Conversation: Argue Less, Talk More," Fisher unpacks his powerful three-part framework for transformative communication: control, confidence, and connection. Through vulnerable personal examples, including his own struggles with defensive reactions, he illustrates how mastering these elements can heal relationships and prevent unnecessary conflicts. This episode offers game-changing strategies for anyone looking to enhance their personal and professional relationships, particularly those who find themselves caught in recurring arguments or struggling to have difficult conversations.

Jefferson’s new book The Next Conversation: Argue Less, Talk More

In this episode you will learn:

  • Why winning an argument actually means losing connection, credibility, and trust
  • The three-step formula for delivering a genuine apology that truly heals relationships
  • How to use "frames" to transform difficult conversations into productive dialogues
  • The power of saying "Tell me more" and why it's transformative in emotional conversations
  • Why clear agreements, not assumptions, are the foundation of successful relationships

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