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Feb 2025
50m 21s

How To Handle Difficult People & Take Ba...

Mel Robbins
About this episode

Today, you are getting research-backed strategies for handling difficult people. 

In this episode, you will dive deep into how to respond to disrespect, gaslighting, and exactly what to say when someone tries to brush off their behavior with, “I was just joking.” 

You and Mel are both learning from trial lawyer Jefferson Fisher, who is known for his straightforward advice, tips, and tricks on how to communicate better. 

Jefferson is here to teach you exactly what to say (and what not to say) when you're dealing with a difficult person: 

If you’re tired of being talked over, dismissed, or made to feel less than, it’s time to learn the techniques that will help you walk into any conversation with confidence—and walk away with your power intact. 

You’ll learn how to:

  • Stand up for yourself without being unlikable.
  • Handle disrespect without losing your cool.
  • Stop arguments before they start.
  • Set boundaries without feeling guilty
  • Reclaim your confidence in seconds
  • Handle fake apologies and toxic conversations like a pro

After today, you’ll have the exact tools to protect your peace, reclaim your confidence, and navigate any difficult conversation with ease. 

For more resources, click here for the podcast episode page. 

If you enjoyed this episode, and want to know more about how to protect your energy and happiness, listen to this one next: The 7-Day Reset for More Time, Energy & Happiness (Backed by Science)

Listen to Jefferson’s first appearance on The Mel Robbins Podcast here: Communicate with Confidence: The Blueprint for Mastering Every Conversation

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