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May 16
38m 49s

My Anxiety Makes Me Frustrated / Angry /...

Josh Fletcher and Drew Linsalata
About this episode

When we struggle with chronic or disordered anxiety, we regularly experience powerful emotions that tend to look like fear or tension. We may experience intense feelings of being vulnerable, or doomed. We talk about these things all the time.

But what about when you have emotions about having those emotions? Struggling to overcome an anxiety problem that is creating disruption in your life is going to trigger actual emotions beyond just fear.

Many feel:


  • Frustrated - because they can't seem to get better fast enough or make steady progress
  • Angry - because they feel stuck in the anxiety loop
  • Guilty - because anxiety is keeping them from living the life they want to live
  • Sad - for the time they may have lost to anxiety


This is just a partial list. The emotions that come along with the struggle are real, valid, and must be acknowledged and addressed. Expressing them is important! This week Josh and Drew are talking about these often confusing and hard to handle emotions.

Have a listen. The conversation touches on the validity of all emotions, learning to be OK with all states of your humanity, why doing hard things is going to bring other parts of your life into the process, and how declaring catastrophe over how you're feeling NOW is a trap.

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