logo
episode-header-image
May 2025
38m 49s

My Anxiety Makes Me Frustrated / Angry /...

Josh Fletcher and Drew Linsalata
About this episode

When we struggle with chronic or disordered anxiety, we regularly experience powerful emotions that tend to look like fear or tension. We may experience intense feelings of being vulnerable, or doomed. We talk about these things all the time.

But what about when you have emotions about having those emotions? Struggling to overcome an anxiety problem that is creating disruption in your life is going to trigger actual emotions beyond just fear.

Many feel:


  • Frustrated - because they can't seem to get better fast enough or make steady progress
  • Angry - because they feel stuck in the anxiety loop
  • Guilty - because anxiety is keeping them from living the life they want to live
  • Sad - for the time they may have lost to anxiety


This is just a partial list. The emotions that come along with the struggle are real, valid, and must be acknowledged and addressed. Expressing them is important! This week Josh and Drew are talking about these often confusing and hard to handle emotions.

Have a listen. The conversation touches on the validity of all emotions, learning to be OK with all states of your humanity, why doing hard things is going to bring other parts of your life into the process, and how declaring catastrophe over how you're feeling NOW is a trap.

---

Disordered Roundtables are here! Think of it as "Disordered Live", a way for members of our audience to spend time with us in an intimate virtual setting (attendance is limited) to engage in real time sharing and discussion on specific anxiety disorder and recovery topics. To be notified when new Disordered Roundtable sessions are scheduled,⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠visit our homepage and get on our mailing list⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

---

Struggling with worry and rumination that you feel you can't stop or control? Check out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Worry and Rumination Explained⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, a two hour pre-recorded workshop produced by Josh and Drew. The workshop takes a deep dive into the mechanics of worrying and ruminating, offering some helpful ways to approach the seemingly unsolvable problem of trying to solve seemingly unsolvable problems.


⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/worryrumination⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

-----

Want to ask us questions, share your wins, or get more information about Josh, Drew, and the Disordered podcast? Visit us on the web:

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://disordered.fm⁠

Up next
Nov 14
Doing It Anyway - While Hurting And Challenged (Episode 133)
Sometimes life throws real challenges at you. Medical issues. Loss. Uncertainty. The kind of stuff that makes anxiety feel completely justified. So how do you move forward when you're genuinely scared AND dealing with actual difficult circumstances?In this episode, we share some ... Show More
32 m
Nov 7
Anxious About Feeling ... Calm? (Episode 132)
Panicogenic Relaxation: Why You Feel Anxious When Feeling CalmYou're finally feeling better. The anxiety has lifted. You're relaxed and calm for the first time in months or even years. So why does that feel so weird? And why are you suddenly anxious about feeling calm?In this epi ... Show More
37m 10s
Oct 31
Anxiety Recovery - Learning To Believe In Yourself Again (Episode 131)
When anxiety and its relentless inner critic take hold, one of the most profound losses is the belief and trust in your own capability. In this episode, Drew and Josh explore how to rebuild self-trust after anxiety disorders erode your confidence in handling life's challenges.The ... Show More
36m 53s
Recommended Episodes
May 2025
Anxiety and Fearing Emotions: Becoming More Emotionally Allowable | EP 316
<p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2271214/open_sms">Send in a question or comment via text.</a></p><p>Do you find yourself running from difficult emotions or trying desperately to control them? Many people with anxiety disorders develop a ... Show More
41m 41s
Sep 24
How To Calm Your Anxious Feelings | Ep 326
<p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2271214/open_sms">Send in a question or comment via text.</a></p><p>If you&apos;re struggling with anxiety and searching for ways of calming your feelings, this episode is for you.</p><p>I break down why ... Show More
30m 53s
Feb 2025
Your Anxiety Is Not Special (This Is Good News) | EP 312
<p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2271214/open_sms">Send in a question or comment via text.</a></p><p>This week we&apos;re looking at why the anxious fear that bothers you most is NOT special - and why that&apos;s actually good news for y ... Show More
24m 26s
Sep 16
The Anxiety Equation (Part 1)
<p>Ever wonder why anxiety shows up and feels so overwhelming? In this episode, Amanda kicks off a mini-series by re-introducing a game-changing formula that makes sense of it all, what she calls, “The Anxiety Equation”. Once you see anxiety as a math problem, you realize you hav ... Show More
9m 55s
Jul 2025
1163: A Listener Asks: Why Cant I Shake the Anxiety?
<p>In today's episode, Gina responds to a listener question about experiencing high stress situations and why some of the tried and true recommendations she hears about on the podcast don't seem to be working for her.&nbsp;Specifically, she asks about the RAIN technique for deali ... Show More
17m 12s
Mar 2025
Why Is My Anxiety Worse in the Morning? Here's What You Need to Know
<p data-pm-slice="1 1 []">Struggling with health anxiety? isn't it time you started healing it at the root? <a href= "https://theanxietyguy.com/health-anxiety-program/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Click here to get started</a>.</p> <p data-pm-slice="1 1 []"><strong>Podcast des ... Show More
12m 18s
Apr 2025
Driving Anxiety and Driving Exposure | EP 315
<p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2271214/open_sms">Send in a question or comment via text.</a></p><p><b>Navigating driving anxiety with exposure therapy—but not how you might think.</b> </p><p>In this episode, Drew Linsalata (therapist, ... Show More
30m 39s
May 2025
OMG! Nothing Works For My Anxiety!!! | EP 317
<p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2271214/open_sms">Send in a question or comment via text.</a></p><p>If you&apos;ve reached the point of declaring &quot;I&apos;ve tried everything and nothing works for my anxiety,&quot; this episode is s ... Show More
23m 47s
Feb 2025
Revealing the Surprising Nature of Anxiety Symptoms
<p data-pm-slice="1 1 []">Break free from fear today! Get step-by-step guidance, clear subconscious blocks, and reclaim your peace. <strong>Click here to start healing!: <a href= "https://theanxietyguy.com/trauma-healing-for-anxiety/" target= "_blank" rel="noopener">The Inner CIr ... Show More
15m 10s
Jan 2025
Healing from Anxiety Disorders: What Recovery Really Feels Like
<p data-pm-slice="1 1 []"><strong>The highlight of this podcast episode is the <a href= "https://theanxietyguy.com/health-anxiety-program/" target="_blank" rel="noopener"><em>Health Anxiety Recovery Program</em></a>, a transformative approach to overcoming health fears and mental ... Show More
11m 39s