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Oct 31
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Ep 474: Why Trying to “Fix” Anxiety Keep...

Matthew Codde LCSW
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Why Trying to “Fix” Anxiety Keeps You Stuck | Understanding the Anxiety Loop


Most people believe the key to healing from anxiety, panic, or intrusive thoughts is to get rid of them.

But what if the harder you try to stop anxiety, the more anxious you actually become?


In this episode of The Restored Minds Show, licensed therapist Matt Codde, LCSW explains the paradox of anxiety recovery — why resistance and control keep you trapped in the anxiety loop, and how true healing begins when you stop fighting your inner experience.


If you’ve been coping, managing, or constantly searching for ways to feel “less anxious,” this episode will help you understand why those strategies backfire — and what to do instead.


🧭 What You’ll Learn in This Episode


✅ Why trying to stop or fix anxiety keeps you stuck in the anxiety loop

✅ How resistance fuels intrusive thoughts and panic

✅ The truth about emotions — energy in motion, not a problem to fix

✅ Why coping and managing aren’t real recovery

✅ The key shift that breaks the anxiety loop for good

✅ How to start allowing, not resisting, so healing can unfold naturally


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⏱️ Timestamps


00:00 – Why Trying to Fix Anxiety Doesn’t Work

01:00 – Understanding Emotions as Energy in Motion

03:00 – The Beach Ball Analogy: What Resistance Really Does

04:50 – How Coping and Control Feed the Anxiety Loop

06:20 – What Recovery Actually Means (and How to Begin)


⚠️ Disclaimer


This content is for informational purposes only and should not be considered medical or psychological advice. For personalized help, consult a licensed professional.

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