In this deeply reflective episode of Beyond Words, Najwa explores the longing so many of us feel when someone we love starts slipping away. What do we do when our instinct is to try harder only to lose ourselves in the process? Najwa unpacks the myths about “being the prize,” why begging for recognition only hurts us more, and how true courage sometimes looks like letting go, step by step.
Through personal reflections, hard truths, and poetic wisdom, she reminds us: your value doesn’t depend on whether someone else sees it.
Show Notes & Timestamps
0:00 – Introduction: What it means when someone begins to slip away
1:45 – The exhausting responsibility of trying harder than 100%
3:09 – Breaking yourself to fix what you didn’t break
4:26 – Relationships that require you to disappear are not for you
5:00 – The wrong belief that “relationships are supposed to be hard”
6:15 – Don’t audition for love: they are not the prize, your quality of life is
7:23 – Mila’s sweet cameo during recording 🐾
8:00 – Vulnerability isn’t desperation—it’s courage
9:32 – “Let them lose you” — stop forcing recognition of your worth
11:13 – Why attention after you pull away is ego, not love
12:08 – The truth of being a giver and what happens when you’re told to shrink
14:38 – Love Island reflection: when openness is unfairly labeled “too much”
16:06 – Shallow vs. deep love: why only going “in the shallow end” will never fulfill you
18:01 – If you’re only offered a tiny corner of their life, it’s not enough
23:52 – Courage isn’t always a leap—it’s the daily steps away
25:17 – Stop trying to make them regret losing you. Their choice is theirs, not yours.
26:07 – A poem from The Nectar of Pain: I will not wait for you to regret losing me
27:55 – Your worth is like gold: it remains whether or not others see it
29:11 – The right person will see all of you and feel lucky they found you
31:09 – Closing: Come home to yourself—your value is not up for negotiation.
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