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Feb 2025
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5 Science-Backed Ways to Stop Disappoint...

Growth Mindset Psychology
About this episode

76% of people regularly break promises to themselves - Why do we keep letting ourselves down?


The uncomfortable truth about why your self-improvement efforts keep failing: it's not about motivation. It's about managing the gap between who you are and who you want to be.


This episode breaks down the exact psychology behind why we disappoint ourselves (hint: your brain is lying to you) and gives you 5 practical systems to fix it. No fluff. No guru BS. Just actionable frameworks.


What you'll learn:

  • How to kill your past self (respectfully)
  • Five counter-intuitive strategies that actually work (backed by science)
  • How to upgrade your mental software without becoming a self-help robot



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Episode: 5 Science-Backed Ways to Stop Disappointing Yourself - Live Gracefully


Chapters:

00:00 W disappointing yourself

01:09 #1 - Past self vs. present self

02:26 Lesson 1 - Live in reality and change it if you don't like it

04:11 #2 - Future self vs the present

04:37 James Clear's advice

06:17 Lesson 2 - Forget any ideas of your future self that do not align with actions that you want to do in the present

07:28 #3 - Speaking vs. being heard

08:32 If you want to give opinions, it helps if you have authority

11:15 Lesson 3 - Actions are louder than words

11:22 #4 - Taking ownership

13:27 Lesson #4 Don't blame others

15:23 #5 - Expectation vs Reality

17:53 Systems to achieve your goals

20:28 Lessons 5 - Success is about systems, not expectations

20:54 Summary

22:36 Outro

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