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May 2025
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150 - How To Speak Up Even When I’m Scar...

Cat Matson
About this episode

It’s REALLY hard to speak up when you’re scared or nervous; worried about looking like an idiot or being rejected.

Yet we need to, right? Because, chances are, you’re listening to this podcast because you are fearful of speaking in public (whatever that looks like to you) and therefore, it follows, you need to speak up even when you’re scared (or never speaking up at all …. Which, in my opinion, is just not ok).

So in this episode of Speaking with Confidence I’m sharing some practical tips on how to speak up even when you’re scared. Not tips for waiting until you’re no longer scared. Not waiting until you’re a confident, polished, fabulous speaker, but speaking up NOW, even when you’re scared.

Listen in to hear:

  • Practical nervous system calming techniques (the ones I use regularly)

  • How to confront and untangle your fearful internal dialogue so you can move past it

  • How I’ve moved through significant fears of my own, like a fear of heights, and how those experiences can help you with your fear of speaking up

Other episodes mentioned (that will help with your fear of public speaking):

The Top 3 Speaking Fears, and How To Overcome Them - ep 92

Interview with Kate Toon - Building The Confidence To Not Be Liked - ep 97

Want the opportunity to practise speaking up EVEN IF you’re scared, in a safe and supportive environment?

Join me for my upcoming SpeakEASY Practise Session where we’ll practise our Elevator Pitches. You get to practise in a space that is supportive, you’ll get some feedback and ideas to make your elevator pitch even better and you’ll take another step in your speakers’ journey.

It’s happening Thursday 22 May at 12.30 AEST - register here (it’s free)

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