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Dec 2024
23m 55s

Turning Opponents into Partners

Susie Tomenchok
About this episode

What if your fiercest opponent could become your strongest ally? In this episode, I dive deep into the power of reframing conflicts, adopting a negotiator’s mindset, and building trust for lasting collaboration. Whether it’s a difficult colleague or a high-stakes negotiation, I’ll share stories, research, and actionable tips to help you turn confrontation into partnership. Let’s explore how small mindset shifts can create big breakthroughs!

In this episode, I'll cover:
1. How to reframe conflicts by shifting your mindset from “me against you” to “us against the problem.”
2. The importance of trust and reciprocity in fostering collaboration and building meaningful relationships.
3. Practical strategies to turn opponents into allies through curiosity, small wins, and active listening.

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Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset.
💕Susie
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