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May 2025
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#brunchtalk: The Difference Between Over...

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick
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Do you have a tendency to overthink dating situations? What's the healthy line of thinking things through to be intentional and even cautious – but not to the point of analysis paralysis or driving ourselves crazy thinking about what *could* happen? We unpack the major difference in this episode – how to lean into Thinker ways so it serves you, but also make sure you are taking action in your love life. Enjoy!

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