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May 2025
12m 12s

Signs of Coercive Control by Narcissists...

Lisa A. Romano
About this episode

In this episode, we’re breaking down the subtle but dangerous ways narcissists use coercive control in conversations to manipulate, destabilize, and maintain dominance over others. If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation feeling mentally foggy, emotionally drained, or questioning your own thoughts, you may have been subjected to narcissistic coercion without even realizing it.

Coercive control is a form of psychological abuse that narcissists use to undermine your confidence, distort your reality, and keep you second-guessing yourself. Unlike overt aggression, these tactics often fly under the radar, making them difficult to recognize until the damage is already done.

What You'll Learn in This Episode:

  • How narcissists use rapid-fire questioning to overwhelm you, keep you off balance, and push you into emotional dysregulation.
  • Why gaslighting is a core tool in coercive conversations and how it causes you to doubt your memory, perception, and even your sanity.
  • The subtle way narcissists withhold information, distort facts, or contradict themselves to create confusion and maintain power over the narrative.
  • How guilt, shame, and fear are weaponized in conversation to manipulate you into compliance and emotional submission.
  • Why they interrupt, talk over you, or shift blame to prevent you from asserting yourself and setting boundaries.

The Psychological Impact of Coercive Control

Research shows that victims of coercive control often experience chronic stress, anxiety, low self-esteem, and cognitive dissonance—the mental discomfort caused by holding contradictory beliefs. Over time, these conversations can leave you feeling powerless, disconnected from your own thoughts, and emotionally dependent on the narcissist for validation and approval.

But knowledge is power. Once you learn to recognize these tactics, you can stop engaging in their games and take back control of your own mind.

Breaking Free from the Cycle

Healing from narcissistic coercion requires self-awareness, emotional detachment, and boundary-setting. In this episode, we’ll discuss practical strategies to help you:

  • Stay grounded and recognize when a conversation is designed to manipulate you.
  • Trust your own perception rather than seeking validation from the narcissist.
  • Respond with clarity and confidence instead of falling into the trap of emotional reactivity.
  • Use gray rock and other disengagement techniques to limit their control over your thoughts and emotions.

If you’ve ever struggled to hold your own in conversations with a narcissist, this episode is for you. Understanding their tactics is the first step to reclaiming your voice, your confidence, and your emotional independence.

Tune in now, and let’s expose the mind games so you can break free from the cycle of coercive control once and for all!

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