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Sep 22
26m 14s

Unmasking the Truth: When Children Love ...

Lisa A. Romano
About this episode

What happens when the very people who were supposed to love us, protect us, and cherish us turn out to be the source of our deepest pain?

In this revealing episode, Lisa A. Romano, trauma-informed life coach and codependency recovery expert, explores the heartbreaking reality behind why so many children grow up loving the very people who harmed them—and how this sets the stage for adult codependency.

From narcissistic parents to emotionally neglectful caregivers, this episode dives into the psychology behind trauma bonding, betrayal blindness, and why our subconscious minds cling to toxic dynamics. Lisa unpacks the emotional and neurological imprinting that causes children—and later, adults—to overlook red flags and remain loyal to harmful people.


In this episode, you'll discover:
🔍 Why the most dangerous people are often the ones closest to us
🧠 How childhood trauma wires the brain for survival, not clarity
💔 The tragic link between emotional betrayal and codependency
🪞 Why children internalize the abuse and blame themselves
🔁 How unresolved childhood wounds manifest as self-abandonment, people-pleasing, and unhealthy adult relationships


This episode is for you if:
✔️ You struggle to set boundaries with family or romantic partners
✔️ You feel guilt or shame for distancing yourself from toxic loved ones
✔️ You often feel drawn to fix, rescue, or gain approval from others
✔️ You suspect your past is still impacting your relationships today


Resources Mentioned:
🌱 Start your healing journey with Lisa's groundbreaking 12 Week Breakthrough Program
👉 https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp

📘 Watch Lisa's related video: Why You Still Love the Person Who Hurt You
👉 YouTube Channel – Lisa A. Romano



#TraumaBonding #CodependencyRecovery #NarcissisticAbuse #InnerChildHealing #LisaRomano #EmotionalNeglect #ToxicFamily #HealingFromAbuse #BetrayalBlindness #12WeekBreakthrough

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