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Oct 2023
47m 17s

#373 - Breaking Free from Old Relationsh...

DR. LISA MARIE BOBBY
About this episode

Do you have habitual ways of showing up in your relationships that feel hard to change? We all do! Old relationship patterns are at the root of so many struggles, from dating emotionally unavailable partners, to feeling mistreated again and again. Getting clear about what your relationship patterns are is the first step in shifting them, so you can have a better experience and create the love and connection you deserve. 

If you want to learn how to break free from old relationship patterns, this episode is for you! I hope you'll find it helpful. 

Love, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

P.S. — If you are interested in doing this work with a Growing Self clinician, start by scheduling a free consultation: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/

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