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May 2
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137: I Used to Be A Hot Mess... And What...

The Sabrina Zohar Show
About this episode
What if the reason you’re spiraling after a text, chasing validation, or attaching to people who barely know you… isn’t about them at all? In this vulnerable solo-meets-guest episode, Sabrina opens up about how her anxious attachment shaped over a decade of dating—texting obsessively, abandoning her needs, and mistaking chemistry for connection. For the second part, her mom joins the conversation to share what it was like to witness that spiral from the outside.

This isn’t just a story about heartbreak—it’s a masterclass in self-awareness, nervous system regulation, and what it actually takes to break your patterns. Whether you’re stuck in the chase or finally done with your own BS, this one will hit deep. You don’t have to be the anxious girl anymore.

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