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Apr 2025
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What to Do When Your Kid Says “I Hate My...

DEAR MEDIA, ALIZA PRESSMAN
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In today’s episode I sit down with Dr. Blaise Aguirre, renowned Harvard psychiatrist to explore the roots of self-hatred and how it differs from everyday self-criticism. We unpack how early experiences—often subtle and unintentional—can shape a child’s sense of worth, and what it takes to unlearn those damaging lessons. We talk about how to respond when your ... Show More
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