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Apr 2025
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“I’m A Bad Kid. I’m Stupid.” Kid Who Wor...

KIRK MARTIN
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Many of our kids begin to internalize, “I’m a bad kid, I’m slow so I’m not smart, there’s something wrong with me. I’m always in trouble, no one is ever happy with me.” That internal dialogue will sabotage your child’s success and relationships for a lifetime (many of us still struggle with limiting beliefs). The good news is we can change that NOW. Kirk gives you specific scripts to cultivate your child’s confidence and help teachers get on board.


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