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Oct 2025
21m 55s

Do You Need To Grieve The Child (& Child...

KIRK MARTIN
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“If you would simply do what I ask you to do, you would be done in 7 minutes. But you would rather argue with me for 7 hours or days or weeks or years and lose everything you own!” That was our son! I tried to change him until I realized I was the one who needed to change. He reflected back to me my own immaturity, but also my own childhood. And that can lea ... Show More
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