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Sep 9
35m 13s

Should I Praise My Kid?

DR. BECKY KENNEDY
About this episode
Praise always feels good in the moment. But does it build confidence that lasts? In today’s episode, Dr. Becky shares some surprising research on praise - and what it tells us about how to affirm our kids in more effective ways. You’ll learn exactly what to do to build your kid’s self-esteem in both high and low moments. 
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