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    Babies, let’s talk about relationships! But not just romantic relationships—Jess and Caroline are going deep on how families deal with conflict, hanging out with friends without your partner, and how siblings affect us. You heard it here first: sibling relationships, and not just birth order, are going to be the next pop psychology subject.

    Plus: J and C read a listener submitted email about the selfishness spectrum, and they try to place themselves within these bounds. This leads to a deeper conversation on “deserving” good things, takeaways from being wronged, and ways to learn to love yourself. Besides that, expect some thoughts on cramps, women’s pain, and accidental amphetamines. You know how it is.


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