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Oct 2023
39m 46s

072: Why Overcomplicating Emotions Harms...

Julia Pappas, Psychologist & Parent Coach
About this episode

Imagine if we needed to know everything about our lungs in order to take a breath. It would be impossible to live. And yet, something similar is happening with emotions. We no longer trust our basic intuitions about what we feel, because of so much noise in the mainstream narrative about the purpose of emotions and what to do about them.

But how complicated are our emotions, really?


Today let's chat about why the world of emotions has become so complicated and why it harms us when we overcomplicate emotions. How much should we listen to experts and is there anything we can do instead? 

That and more in today's conversation.

 

"Don't Blame The Brain" is the book I reference in this episode. You don't want to miss it! In this book, I walk you through a simple and reliable process to get the most out of your emotions, make them work for you (not against you), and feel better finally.  

Go to dontblamethebrain.com for details.

 

 

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Podcast Host: Julia Pappas, Psychologist & Parent Coach

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