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Apr 23
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Unmasking Perfectionism: The Hidden Link...

Jen Rafferty
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Is Your Perfectionism Really Just a Stress Response?
In this episode of The Empowered Educator Podcast, we uncover the hidden connection between perfectionism and your brain’s stress response system — especially for educators. Learn why perfectionism isn’t a personal flaw, but a learned survival strategy rooted in fear, fawn mode, and a nervous system trying to keep you safe.

You’ll discover:

  • How perfectionism acts as protective armor against failure, rejection, and shame
  • The neuroscience of stress: how your amygdala triggers fight, flight, freeze, or fawn responses
  • Why perfectionism often shows up in “fawn mode” — over-accommodating, over-achieving, and over-functioning
  • How school systems unintentionally reinforce perfectionism through rewards and rankings
  • Why students need regulated, not perfect, teachers — and how authenticity creates deeper classroom impact
  • Tools and practices to rewire your brain for calm, confidence, and compassion
  • How self-compassion builds new neural pathways and helps you reclaim your joy

🎁 Explore soul-nourishing, educator-centered gifts and resources at empowerededucator.com/school-store — because the most generous thing you can do for your students is take care of you.

Stay empowered,
Jen


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