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Feb 2025
18m 4s

#175: Perfectionism & Anxious Attachment

Stephanie Rigg
About this episode

In today's episode, we explore how perfectionism intersects with anxious attachment and impacts our ability to form secure relationships. We examine how the drive for perfection often stems from attachment wounds around unworthiness and creates barriers to authentic connection.

Key themes covered:

  • The links between perfectionism and anxious attachment patterns
  • How perfectionism manifests in relationships (performing, people-pleasing, fear of making mistakes)
  • The connection between perfectionism and fear of abandonment
  • Why perfectionism creates distance in relationships despite our intentions for closeness
  • How perfectionism impacts vulnerability and emotional intimacy

We discuss practical steps for:

  • Recognising perfectionist patterns in your relationships
  • Moving from self-criticism to self-compassion
  • Embracing "good enough" in relationships
  • Building tolerance for imperfection
  • Showing up authentically in relationships

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