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Apr 2025
10m 27s

129 - Why Do I Keep Losing It?

Alastair Duhs
About this episode

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

Feel like anger gets the best of you? In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares three powerful strategies to help you regain control over your anger and respond thoughtfully instead of reacting explosively.

Learn the importance of recognising your Early Warning Signs of anger, using positive self-talk to stay grounded and challenging your beliefs that fuel anger. These steps are straightforward and practical, aimed at creating calmer and stronger connections with loved ones.

Key Takeaways:

  • Spotting your Early Warning Signs of anger is crucial for managing anger effectively.
  • Positive self-talk can help you stay calm and reduce anger responses.
  • Understanding the beliefs behind anger can lead to better control over reactions.
  • Challenging common anger-inducing beliefs can help in creating a healthier mindset, and
  • Awareness of your feelings can create a powerful window for choosing your responses.

Links referenced in this episode:

For more information (and FREE resources) of how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

For a FREE training on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com/training/.

To learn more about The Complete Anger Management System, visit angersecrets.com/course/.

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